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You Don't Have to Lose Yourself to Love the People You Love There is something I have been thinking about lately. Sometimes the people we love come home, and even when we are happy to have them there, our entire rhythm changes. I am experiencing that right now. My son is home, and I love him. I have missed him. I am grateful to have him back. And yet, if I am being completely honest, the transition has been harder than I expected. Because while he was away, I had a rhythm. I

“I’m Tired. I’m Exhausted. Would You Please Stop Talking?” Have you ever been talking to someone and suddenly noticed yourself taking a deep breath? You feel like something is being pulled out of you. So you take a deep breath, hoping it will replenish you. It doesn't. But you take the deep breath anyway. Not because you are physically tired. Because you are emotionally tired. You may find yourself thinking: I can't do this right now. I don't have anything left. Would you ple

You Don't Have to Abandon Yourself to Stay Connected I must say, first and foremost, I am thoroughly enjoying writing to you—sharing my thoughts, feelings, and the things I have learned throughout my work with people. I am interested in authenticity. I think it is important to be true to yourself in order to be true to others. When we aren't honest with ourselves about who we are, what we need, what we feel, or what we can realistically give, it becomes difficult to show up a

You Can't Make Someone Self-Aware Many years ago, I had a client say something to me that I have never forgotten. He looked at me and said: “I'm not broken.” I remember the moment because, given the circumstances that had brought him into therapy, the statement caught me completely off guard. As a therapist, I remember thinking: Why are you here? Not because I believed that people have to be “broken” to need therapy. They don't. Therapy isn't about proving that something is w

Stop talking about them. I know. It sounds harsh. And honestly? It feels good to talk about them—especially when they have wronged you for so many years. Wronged you to the point of shifting your family dynamics. Wronged you to the point of shaping your role in the family. Wronged you to the point of damaging your relationships with other family members. Wronged you to the point of severing friendships and changing the dynamics of an entire shared social circle. There can be